10 Reasons Why You Should Never Date Older Men

Recently, I stumbled upon a post from Goody Feed on 10 Valid Reasons Why an “Uncle” Boyfriend is the Best Boyfriend Ever, which I presumed was either written by an uncle or a young girl who is dating an uncle.  I do agree with some of its contents, but let’s for once put ourselves on the opposing side and think about the cons of dating an uncle.

Inspired by that article, I have then come out with 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Date Older Men, or rather, 10 Valid Reasons Why an “Uncle” Boyfriend is the Worse Boyfriend Ever:

1. You are both at different stages of life

He is at the peak of his career path, whereas you are still struggling to climb up that corporate ladder. It won't be as easy to comprehend each other's priorities as compared to couples who are working together towards the same goal at the same stage of life.

2. His superiority complex would surface when faced with decision-making situations

For the fact that he has lived a longer life than you, he would always think he is right hence would expect you to do it his way all the time.

3. He has dated way too many girls than you did men

 He is used to the fact that girls come and go. And to him, you are no exception.

4. You did not go through the toughest time of life with him

You weren't there for him when he struggled to build his career. And now that everything is stable, it is as if you have been sent from hell to crush it.

5. He wants kids, while you want to travel the world

Considering his age, he could be eager to start a family whereas you want to take your time to enjoy your sweet honeymoon before reality kicks in. Something major to compromise!

6. Communication barrier with your friends

Sooner or later, you will start dreading having him and your friends together under one roof, because there is absolutely no common topic at all! To him, they are a bunch of clueless kids who have yet to figure out on the reality of life.

7. You risk getting judgmental stares from the public

Oh look, that girl must have found herself a sugar daddy! Otherwise, which young girl in her right mind would want to date someone old and frail?

8. He would retire before your kids barely graduated from college

That is, unless you date someone who is self-employed and has a small reserve of wealth. How long can your savings continue to support your kids after his source of income comes to a halt?

9. He will die sooner than you

Why prepare yourself for heartbreak when you can choose to marry a young bloke and grow old together?

10. Last but not least, there must be an obvious reason why he is still single

Is he afraid of commitment? Is he the type who secretly never wants to get married? Or is he a psychopath? Be careful what you're getting yourself into :/

After reading the 10 reasons above, do you still think it is a good idea to be dating an old man? Teehee.

For a side note, a few OOTD photos from last weekend.

Disclaimer: The article above represents the author’s stereotypical views and shall not be applied at all circumstances.

10 Tips to Avoid Being a Crazy Bitch in a Relationship

There is no denying that most of us have been that crazy bitch in a relationship during our ugly past. Maybe we still are, except we are now sensible crazy bitches who possess an impeccable degree of self-control. For the love of womanhood, I have laid down 10 remarkable tips to prevent you from falling into that diabolical state of obsession, and of course to serve as an important self-reminder!

1. Focus on your career

Remember your priority in life? It was never about getting the right man. Focus on your job, your goals, your life, yourself as an individual. Because if you fail, there is no guarantee that this man you are dating now will be there to support you in any aspect.

2. Engage your own social circle

Your life does not revolve around him. There is no obligation to spend all your free days with your man. Hang out with your friends and have your own activities. After all, a man wouldn’t want a clingy girl who seeks his attention 24/7.

3. Less expectations
If there is anything I learnt from the past, it is that with expectations come disappointment. If you have less expectation, chances are you are more likely to be blessed with surprises and happiness.

4. Be kind to his family and friends

Sometimes we wish our man would place us at the very top of his list. But one thing for sure, his family always comes first, and his friends are here to stay. To him, there is no certainty that your relationship would survive, but on the other hand his friendships are very likely to last a lifetime. Hence, never badmouth or get on the bad side with any of his dearest ones.

5. Don’t nitpick

It is extremely detrimental to pick fight on small little stuff. Just because he doesn’t send you a good night kiss emoji does not mean he likes you lesser now. Never waste your time making assumptions based on trivial matters.

6. Don’t seek for assurance

There is no need to seek assurance that he likes you if you already know that he does. Pushing him further would not make him like you more, but instead causes annoyance.

7. Never take his words to heart

No, by not taking his words to heart, I don’t mean to be a rebellious girl going against his words or anything. Sometimes your man may utter something upsetting, but it is entirely up to you on how you interpret the meaning behind those words. Keeping a moderate degree of nonchalance might help level up your relationship.

8. Don’t hold grudges

If you happened to have an unpleasant argument, resolve it immediately and don’t accumulate any bitter feelings. Holding grudges is hazardous to both your mental health and relationship.

9. Be independent

Some men happened to be the sole breadwinner in a relationship, but more often than not they are not (especially when you are not already married). Remember, your man is not your ATM machine or your driver. Just because you are in a relationship now does not mean that you should rely on him to do everything. In order to gain his mutual respect, be independent financially and physically.

10. Trust

The magical word in every relationship. If you choose to be with him, trust him. Do not doubt his love for you. Do not question his every movement and make things up in your head. Because you believe that at the end of the day, that sacred place in his heart is solely reserved for you.

xoxo

10 Perks of Being Single

1. Weekends are well spent sleeping in and reflecting on your own life.

2. Money saved on birthday, anniversary, valentine gifts.

3. No matching bra and underwear? Who cares? The only person who ever wants to see it is the girl in the mirror after all.

4. One less worry off the chart - no need to get yourself concerned on where he’s going, who he hangs out with and why he isn’t home when the clock strikes 12.

5. No more obligations to reply one specific person’s texts at all times.

6. Gone are the days when someone wakes up complaining about not having even a quarter of the blanket.

7. No more feeling guilty for having one-on-one dinner with your guy friends anymore.

8. Don’t have to shave your legs anymore since no one is gonna brush against them anyway.

9. No one will nag you for eating too much. Or too little. In fact no one cares if you eat at all! Yay :(

10. Finally, some time to hang out with friends whom you don’t usually bother seeing when you are attached.

10 Things about Best Friends

1. You can tell each other your dirty secrets without fearing that they will turn around and use it against you one day.

2. You share your thoughts freely, including your crush on a younger boy because you know they don’t judge.

3. No matter what, you would always be supportive of each other’s decisions, including the decision to cry running back to their ex-boyfriend, although you would first give them a lecture.

4. You never really care about who pays the bill and who owes who by how much because somehow someday, both of you would be even.

5. You miss each other presence often, because people around simply don’t understand you.

6. Even though you don’t talk to each other for days, weeks or even months as you both are busy with lives, you would always find a way back to each other.

7. You are aware of each others’ flaws (just the very minor ones like their indecisiveness and their choice of men wtf is that considered a flaw) but who cares? We are still better than everyone else! LOL.

8. Even when there are cooler people around, you would stick to each other and never let them feel left out.

9. You can go for vacation together for weeks without the urge to strangle them to death (and when you are on vacation with others you are constantly be reminded of how best friends are still your best travel partners).

10. You are certain that some day in the future you will take turns to be each other's bridesmaids. 

I love you best friends! xoxo

10 Ways to Show that You Have Got Your Life Figured Out

1. Suit up

There is nothing better that portrays seriousness than a man in suit and tie. If you are a woman, pick a 2-tone knee-length dress - nothing too dull and officer-like but one that is sufficiently fitting to show your curves. Wear or carry a blazer around to show that you are always prepared for an emergency client meeting or any circumstances as such. Of course, outfit itself is merely a basic step. To top up your appearance, always carry a calendar notebook and a Mont Blanc-resembling black pen (most probably from Papermate as you can't afford even the tip of Mont Blanc pen LOL). Put one on hold while you flip through your calendar which has been scribbled all over before confirming your availability for any date.

2. Start investing 

Property investment, stock exchange, mutual funds etc, you gotta have one of them! Or at least, start a new hobby of reading investment brochure so the next time someone asked you about stocks, you'll be able to brag about your knowledge on Twitter's IPO. Show the world you have an absolute control over your income and is farsighted in terms of financial planning. Not a risk taker? Buy an insurance. Place your money into FD. Heck, even buying designer bags is considered a good investment! Just make sure you go for durable calf skin products, not cheap canvas handbags like those that I own (as far as I could afford, sadly). Stick to the classic. After all, no one wants a seasonal item with the lifespan of a housefly. 

3. Drink coffee

Correction on my sentence earlier. If there is anything I enjoy more than reading a book on a peaceful Sunday afternoon, it is sipping a cup of hot latte at a cosy coffee place. Latte must be accompanied by unique coffee art for my album collection.

Go for an extra shot when needed. The need for caffeine indirectly tell others that you are an important person who have important tasks on hand and hence you need extra dosage of caffeine to reenergize.

4. Cook!

There is nothing more attractive than a man in apron.

Regardless which gender you are, being able to cook is definitely an additional point. Emphasize the importance of home-cooked food by pointing on the amount of MSG and oil when you eat out. Hair loss, weight gain, poor health, always put the blame on MSG. If possible, pretend to come out with your own recipe even if it tastes awful. What are the chances that people will borrow your recipe anyway? Even if they do and the food turned out like crap, it is their fault for not blessed with the natural culinary skills.

5. Be a career planner 

So it's been only 6 months since you graduated from uni and your CV is nothing longer than half a page. It doesn't matter, you can still be a career expert everyone looks up upon! Start giving career advice to your juniors and even your peers. Be equipped with basic knowledge and current issues of all industries eg. Which is the best investment bank in the country? Which among the big 4 accounting firms offer the best corporate finance job? Who is the developer working on the MRT project? What is the higher paying government firm? Which PR company has the best client etc etc. Be firm and certain when giving your opinion as this will show that you are confident and believe in what you speak of. Who else would emulate your carefully drawn out career plan if you yourself aren't even sure of it?

6. Know your cocktails

The next time you go on a Friday night out with fellow colleagues, order yourself a classic cocktail. Take no longer than 60 seconds to flip through the beverage menu before placing your order. Be it Sangria, Daiquiri or Sex on the Beach, always choose something you are familiar with. Better still, know the ingredients and offer to make your favourite cocktail for the next house party. You know the house party they have long discussed will forever be postponed or never happen. When the day comes, it's never too late to google for the procedure and go for a trial-and-error basis XD

If you are a man, always order something on the rock. Anything on the rock makes you cool and macho.

Beer is a no no. It simply shows how dull and cheapskate you are. Well unless the rest of the group insists on a tower. Just shut up and show off your cocktail knowledge the next time you hang out with a cooler gang.

7. Take your supplement

Vitamin C or probiotic or whatever (whatever because those 2 mentioned are the only supplement I take), Store your pills in a container separated into daily dosage to show that you are an organized and responsible person who takes health as priority. It is also an indicator to others that you are aware of your health condition and is taking steps to enhance it.

8. Read a book

No, text books and bible don’t count. Always have a novel wherever you go. Personally, I don’t believe in self-help so I always go for fiction. I used to read classical during high school (peer influence wtf) but soon I discovered that they are the most boring of all genres. Moved on to chick flicks later which I must say contributed significantly to the bimbotic person I am today LOL. Oh, and I must proudly announce that I had already finished all 7 of Harry Potter books last year (kinda late I know, used to think they were too thick so I didn’t want to read). Reading isn’t exactly Asian culture. If you want the easy way out, at least know a few famous authors like Dan Brown, Agatha Christie, Jodi Picoult, John Grisham and Sophie Kinsella (Confession of a shopaholic!!!). No Stephanie Meyer in the list since I don’t read Twilight. Pick up their books in the book store, skim through the summary and read the last page. There, you have just finished the entire book! Teehee. Of course, that is not what I usually do. There is nothing I enjoy more than reading a good book on a peaceful Sunday afternoon.

9. Be familiar with countries

Browse through Tripadvisor and memorize the famous tourist spots all across the globe. Just because you are too poor to travel to Europe doesn’t mean that you should be oblivious of the Lourve museum.

The next time someone brags about going to Paris, you are at least able to request him to bring back some Laduree macarons. As for countries you have been to, don’t forget the places you have been. “I know that restaurant along Hongdae street that serves the best Dak Galbi! I will send you the address for you to look it up on your next visit!”

10. Pick up a new language

If you are a Malaysian or Singaporean, Mandarin and Malay don’t count as new language. We are raised to be articulate in 3 languages that it’s no longer a big deal. However if you can speak an additional language (Japanese and Korean are the norm these days), not only potential employer, but people in general will be impressed.

12 Signs You are a Bimbo

1. Your favourite colour is pink. In fact almost anything in pink is irresistible, including the pink fluffy Hello Kitty bedroom slippers you spotted at the night market.

2. You live by the life principles that new underwear is a basic human right and shoes are the best lifelong investment. You're not sure of the precise payback period though. Maybe the day you get swept off your feet by the right guy. Who will buy you more shoes. And underwear ^^

3. Selca is a must-do regardless of where you are: in a moving car, at the restaurant, in the toilet, trying on clothes, out on a date, during a vacation etc.

4. Your favourite movies are Mean Girls and Legally Blonde.

5. You think the capital of the United States of America is New York.

6. You have a cute boyfriend and your girlfriends are absolutely jealous of your love life. But chances are he also assumes that the capital of the US is New York.

7. You have read every shopaholic novel by Sophie Kinsella and decided that she is your favourite author (apart from JK Rowling because Harry Potter rocks)

8. Your dream car is either VW Beetle or Mini Cooper. They also happen to be the only cars that you know of.

9. You bling your iPhone with Swarovski crystals. Or if you're lazy, you simply dress it up with Marc Jacob's pink Katie Bunny cover.

10. You avoid doing the dishes at all costs and if you must, you will wear a pair of rubber gloves to protect your manicure and your delicate fingers. But they must be pink. Refer to point 1.

11. Your goal in life is to marry a handsome guy, live in a big mansion and make beautiful babies together.

12. You own a pink blog that contains an excessive amount of your selcas and some crappy articles that nobody bothers reading.

Credits to my bimbotic girlfriend Katie from whom I was inspired to draft this post.

甜甜屋 Hello Kitty Cafe, Muar

Behold, here comes a super pink post with kitty overload, as if my blog isn’t already pink enough!

You don’t have to go all the way to Japan, Korea or Taiwan for Hello Kitty Café, because there is one right here right now in Muar – my beloved hometown! A Hello Kitty Café at a small town like this, who would have thought?

Don’t belittle this café because of the location. Step into this pink haven and you’ll be amazed.

Apparently the café has been opened for quite some time but for some reason nothing motivated me to go visit. There wasn’t much hype about this cute café either, at least not within my circle.

A gathering session with 2 high school classmates brought me to Hello Kitty Café, or otherwise named as Sweety House Café which gave me a whole new perception to Muar! I was already quite excited along the journey, and thank goodness the café did not disappoint me. The moment I stepped in, I went woooo and waaaaaa like a suaku (kampong girl wtf).

Pink walls, white curtains, pretty chandelier, Hello Kitty cushions and countless Hello Kitty decorations!!! How can any girl not be amazed by this place?!

Simple pink and white furniture are lovely after some added frills and polka dots.

A beautiful corner next to the entrance with a giant pink bow! Inspiration for my future room!

Even the air-con can’t escape the kitty fever. The owner of this shop must be an extreme Hello Kitty fanatic!

Every table along the wall has its own unique Hello Kitty sticker.

This particular one is even bedazzled! *mad love*

We picked our cosy little corner.

Introducing Joo Kim and Hui Ruan, my 2 Convent mates who will be doctors soon. See, they are busy practicing anatomy and saving people’s lives yet I’m here writing about pink stuff and sweet kitties *惭愧*

This wall made me go awwwww~ Inspiration for my future baby room!!! Errr, provided it’s a baby girl lah XD

Kitty table design.

Kitty tissue box (albeit a little stained).

Another cleaner tissue box.

三杯鸡 ＋ 饭 (direct translated as 3-cup chicken wtf, dunno the English name) RM6.90

娘惹鸡 ＋ 饭 (Nyonya chicken + rice) RM6.90

面粉粿 (panmee equivalent) RM4.90 Notice that piece of kitty flour??? LOL!

冰糖银耳炖芦荟 RM4.50

How the bowl looks like at the bottom! ^^

Mango Sago RM5.50

Popcorn chicken. Can’t remember the price.

The menu is in Chinese since the majority of Muarians are Chinese literate. Too bad if you’re a banana, I suggest you go to the café with a friend who can read Chinese. Overall the prices are reasonable, in fact super cheap for a Hello Kitty themed café as such! Try visiting other similar café, the prices are sky high for sure. Of course location matters too.

Moving on, more Hello Kitty decorations around the shop.

Omgosh A bling bling Hello Kitty telephone!!!

A big Hello Kitty cushion!!!

Okay lah I have to admit the cushion looked rather dirty and disgusting. I imagine the worst kind of people hugging it and filthy kids farting on it. Still, I couldn’t resist the golden opportunity to capture this fake happy moment wtf.

I mean, I was happy to be at the café, just not happy having to hold that cushion. Teehee.

More photos with the girls.

It’s weird to say this but while you’re there, don’t forget to see the pretty toileto! Go take some photos even if you don’t feel like peeing! (that’s what I did XD)

Kitty mirror!!! *snap snap snap*

Kitty soap container!!! How thoughtful of them!

As I left the café, I noticed this pink letter box outside.

Showed someone this photo later on telling him I need his help to paint my mailbox to pink next time but he told me off by saying that the only mailbox I’m gonna have is an email inbox. Le sigh, he might be right after all :(

That concludes my visit to Hello Kitty Café in Muar! Thank you so much for bearing with my bimbo moments. Thumbs up for the owner who put in so much effort on beautifying the café. I love it and would definitely recommend you there!

FYI, Hello Kitty Café is located somewhere behind the Bank of China. Drive around those few blocks, you won’t miss the pink shop that really stands out on that boring commercial building!

Sweety House Café 甜甜屋

Address: 9, Jalan Perniagaan 2,

Pusat Perniagaan Kenanga,

84000 Muar, Johor.

Tel: 06-9513387

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sweetyhouse-Cafe/270048596404800